Finding Life At WSU After a Life Was Lost at Malibu

It was BIG news that ESPN was coming to Pullman for the big Friday night USC vs. WSU game. The downside was that it was the same weekend as the Fall Getaway camp for Young Life College at WFR-Canyon. WSU College Director, Gary Hopkins, sent out 100 last minute invites to WSU kids to come to camp after the game. Two car-fulls of kids responded, but it was one kid who responded back to Gary that stole the storyline.

This young man said 'thanks but no thanks to camp.' His 'no' was related to a traumatic experience with Young Life back in HS. Gary met up with him two days later, discussing reengaging with YL and God while in college. This freshman, from Chalice Idaho, shared about being at Malibu two summers ago. He went as a second timer with the motivation for bringing his little brother to come and similarly have the best week of his life too. While playing sand volleyball, his little brother served a ball over the net and into the ocean, and a classmate/exchange student ran to retrieve the ball from the water and tragically vanished under the swift tidal currents. The shock, pain of loss and trauma of this classmate and friend was beyond measure. In fact, this young man had not prayed, picked up a bible, or been to YL or church since that terrible incident.

Upon hearing his story, Gary invited him to join one of the YL college small groups that upcoming Wednesday. He went, picked up a bible for the 1st time in two years. He has connected with this small group, reconnecting with God. Simply the invitation to come to camp opened the door for this new beginning. Jesus came extending an invitation. Who are you inviting to 'come and see' Jesus? 

Life. Camera. Action: Top 7 Takeaways

The last 12 weeks have been such a gift to rest, reflect, be restored (i.e. Dietrich!) and allow God to rebuild my engine. Engines are meant to power movement. Here are 7 new ways I will be operating:

1. Modeling health and growth after John 15: the vine and the branches metaphor Jesus gives. Healthy things grow.  Health comes by connectedness to Jesus.

2. Use a disciplined focus in leading & living

-A 'Leading Vision' tool to consistently evaluate

-Use our 'Marriage 'check in' tool with Tanya. 

-Use Supervision Dashboards to stay focused on essentials with key staff, and areas we serve

-Use my process to 'Review and Preview' every week on Friday at 3pm. 

3. Battle against fear and scarcity thinking.  Love and faith is the fuel Jesus gives us. Fear and scarcity suck life, love and faith out. Pray before during and after everything. 'Pray continually' 1Thess5:17. And remember what the Spirit empowers me to do; love power & self-discipline.  2Tim1:7

4. Take Sabbath Seriously. TSS. Receive, protect and savor the day of rest, weekly

5. Focus on '12'. Jesus invest deeply in a few. Me too! And learn from others, especially from other cultures and backgrounds different from mine. 

6. Talk 50% less when leading. Prepare clearer messaging, prepare to simplify my words, allow for more Q & A so folks can process more. 

7. Focus on essentials first when planning

-What do you want? (Clarify desired outcome)

-Why do you want it? (Get real & honest.)

-What has held us back from this so far. (The more honest, the more helpful it'll be) 

I look forward to operating differently the next 1-5 years. Thanks for being on the journey with me. Feel free to bring up any of these topics, I'm happy to talk (50% less)...and ask YOU questions too. :)   -Jeff

Second Hand Smoke: Three Summer Highlights

I was off this summer, yet miracles still happened even without me around. Shocking! (please discern the obvious sarcasm!)  Let me share a few amazing kid stories. I'll add more in the coming weeks.

My friends the Morells and Tanya showed up to see the 175+ Spokane Malibu campers off for the bus trip. I ran into one frantic looking YL leader, my real estate agent and friend, and asked 'what is one thing we can pray for?'  He said 'pray for *Stoney.  We are looking for a place to throw away his drugs he brought.'  After catching my breath, we prayed. I just heard the rest of the story. The leader and Stoney dumped the drugs at the first rest stop. In the first days of camp, Stoney commented that it had been the longest he had gone without drugs in his system since being a little boy. His week was incredible. He tracked 100% with the gospel all week and gave his life to Jesus. His leader said 'I love that the kid i made throw away his weed was the one who radically met his savior!"


A Malibu work crew girl from Spokane shared their 'cardboard testimony' during the work crew presentation.  On one side it shared 'On the verge of suicide' and on the other was 'Found life and hope in Christ.'  For the first two weeks, it was a vulnerably powerful message to campers and declaration. When a family member from Spokane arrived week 3, she decided not to share her cardboard testimony. Meanwhile, the family member-camper shared with her leader about her battle with suicidal thoughts. She learned third hand her family member who is on work crew overcame her battle through Christ. In fact, two others in her group also heard and realized how Jesus brought the WC girl through, all three struggling girls gave their hearts to Jesus and chose the hope HE gives and surrendered the hopelessness they each carried with them in their hurting lives. Incredible how even when the WC girl DIDN'T share her story, her changed life was enough to speak to lead 3 girls to trust themselves to the savior!

Cam was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer and his last wish was to serve on a work crew.  Week one in the pit-crew was exhausting, yet when in week 2, a week full of Capernaum (YL kids with special needs) kids, he was re-invigorated. Cam referred to this as his BEST week ever in life. His cardboard testimony read: "Broken on Earth. Whole in Heaven."  A few weeks after his life changing work crew experience, he went to be with the Lord..WHOLE! 

*I changed Stoney and Cam's name to protect their story.

Top 10 Summer Book Quotes

TOP 10 Book Quotes from Summer Reading

This summer, I had time set aside to get after reading books like I've never had space to do before. I paired reading the books of James & Acts with rereading a spiritual classic type book, "Life of the Beloved" by Henri Nouwen. Also, 3 books on leading towards change and vision. I was encouraged to read "Leading Change" by John Kotter, books "Switch" and "Habit" to understand how I, and other people, change or resist it. Also "Right Color, Wrong Culture" for a better grasp of leading a diverse, multi-ethnic region.  And challenging yet captivating books "The Insanity of God," re-reading "Living Forward," and Malcolm Gladwell's "David and Goliath." I hope these quotes spark conversations.

#10. Desirable Difficulties – 

Identify ‘Desirable difficulties’: Being aware and making others aware of one's own inabilities/weaknesses helps foster an interdependence on others' strengths in order to succeed, work together, and each to do their best. Using shortcuts and survival techniques around learning disabilities, short attention spans and dyslexia helps hyperfocus on strengths to succeed. Don't let an inability count you out.  -David & Goliath-

#9. Heart and Head Must Be Captured –

For people to accept change, the change must have both an emotional appeal that connects with their heart, and an absolutely clear, specific, logical appeal.  If not, people will resist. -Switch-

#8. Choose From Among Who God Chooses –

"There is a difference between ethnicity and culture.  When it comes to building diverse leadership, ethnicity is never enough." -Right Color, Wrong Culture-  Also, James 2:5 “Notice that God chose poor men, whose wealth was their faith, and made them heirs to the kingdom…once you allow distinctions to creep in, you are sinning and stand condemned by God.”  -R.C.W.C.- & James

#7. His Story is Not Just History –

God is doing everything today that he has done in the Bible among those faithfully following Him in tough places.  The Bible is more than a history book; He is indeed present in a broken world.

Nik interviewed persecuted Russian, Ukrainian and Chinese believers that had powerfully endured persecution and experienced miraculous deliverances, asking: "Why have you not written these stories down?”  They each, individually responded, "Haven’t you read the Bible?" "It’s like the sun rising in the east. It is the way things are." Each said, "it’s expected for God to come through." -The Insanity of God-

#6. Live Forward by Reviewing Often –

Do a weekly review and preview, each Friday at 3 p.m.

1. Review my written life plan word for word.

2. Gather loose papers & notes I took. Scan it/trash it/file it.

3. Review last week’s calendar & to do list.

4. Preview upcoming week.

5. Make action list based on 4 & 5.

6. Review current projects. Add any action steps.        -Living Forward- Hyatt & Harkavy

#5. Good Vision Simplifies Everything –

A good vision simplifies thousands of more detailed decisions, motivates people to take action in the right direction with a degree of autonomy, and gives people an appealing long term cause to fight for.  -Leading Change- John Kotter

#4. Lostness is the Great Enemy –

The real enemy in our world is not Islam, communists or radical Muslims, it is “Lostness.”  We are all susceptible to being lost.  We must examine our own condition, seeing our own ongoing need for God’s grace.  Then we see others the same!  -The Insanity of God-

#3. Emerged Leaders are the Best Leaders –

Emerged leaders: People who have risen from enduring loss, pain, abandonment, trauma and hurtful atmospheres, and overcame.  They develop a hard to stop attitude, an uncommon resilience, and a disagreeableness where making calculations or seeing the odds and risks unlike others, who use conventional wisdom.  It is the disagreeable and resilient who change the world.  Therefore, they are qualified as innovators and revolutionaries.  -David and Goliath-

#2. The Good News is Ir-resistible – 

Acts 5:40 They had been beaten and commanded not to speak in the name of Jesus.  The apostles went out from there full of joy and continued to teach unceasingly and proclaimed the good news of Jesus.”  Instead of withdrawing after discouragement & resistance, may we respond with more joy and motivation with Jesus.  -The Acts of the Apostles-

#1. The Deepest Truth is our Greatest Joy –

“Our deepest truth is that we are the beloved and our greatest joy and peace comes from fully claiming that truth…it is only when we have claimed our own place in God’s love that we can experience this all embracing, non-comparing love with God and brothers and sisters.”  

 Henri Nouwen, -Life of the Beloved-

Hope these highlights from these solid books was helpful and inspires conversations and future digs.

-Jeff-

Top 10 Mentorship Nuggets

TOP 10: MENTORSHIP LESSONS

During my sabbatical, I scheduled to meet with 5 mentors with conversations fitting with their expertise and my specific hunger for wisdom. First, I met with Bill Robinson, author and longtime president of Whitworth U. Then met counselor/theologian/author Marty Folsom. Third I met with Doug Asbjornsen, retired Navy Rear Admiral and current supervisor/trainer/EWU professor of numerous Eastern WA principals. Fourth, professional executive consultant and coach Dave Phifer from Phifer Systems, and lastly, Wayne Williams, longtime CEO of Telect in Liberty Lake. Took a lot of trimming down from a goldmine to come up with my top 10 nuggets from these valuable times.

10. Urgency Warning: Be careful when creating urgency for others.  Urgency can take folks' eyes off what is most important. Don’t use fear tactics, focus on what is universally agreed upon, and focus on essential 'positives,' not on negatives. (Both Doug Asbjornsen and Marty Folsom)

9. Narrow is the Way: When preparing to speak/write, focus narrowly on the impact you are aiming for, don't focus on coming up with content. Also, if I'm strong in having last-minute inspiration for speaking, prepare for it, yet also be ready to subtract if you do add. A 'focused less' is always more. (Bill Robinson)

8. Ask to Play: To be a great asker/inviter, share my commitments, ask permission to learn theirs and ask if they’re open to consider sharing/joining in mine. Its like asking if others want to 'play.' (Marty F.)

7. Not-Drawn-To-Scale: As a person, I don’t ‘scale’ across YL.  I’m limited as one person. Values, vision, and commitments of how we operate DO scale because others can do them too. (Dave Phifer)

6. The Best 3 Pre-Questions: When empowering and preparing for strategic movement, ask:

  a. What do you want?

  b. Why do you want it?

  c. What has kept you from getting there? Get very specific, honesty will pay off. (Dave Phifer)

5. 50% Less is 100% More: As a leader, use 50% less words, and don’t give unsolicited advice.  More words dis-empower others, creates dependence on the leader, loses clarity & transferability by sheer volume of words, and starves others from being able to process and asking questions. And, unsolicited advice often makes others feel not-smart and untrusted. (Wayne Williams gathered from John Townsend, co-author 'Boundaries')

4. The (Non) Apprentice: When empowering others to take on leadership in areas of our non-strengths, treat them as an up and coming expert, not as an apprentice of ours. First, agree on desired outcomes and set them as the CEO, and with you as working for them. You don't need to model 'how to' in order to empower. (Both Bill Robinson and Wayne Williams)

3. StrengthBlinder Finder. Utilize conversation about the 'balcony' and 'basement' (click here to try this valuable tool) of each of our strengths to bring balance & growth. Example: My top strength is 'Activate.'  My balcony: I spark movement & momentum. My basement, "Ready, Fire, Aim." I need to seek wise counsel from sequential strategic thinkers. (Wayne Williams)

2. 'Who does #2 Work For?': We can become a true 'together-together' (In Swahili: 'Pamoja-Pamoja') community when we acknowledge the Father, Son & Holy Spirit as the #1 primary ministers, not any group member/leader as the #1. Trusting God to lead can create freedom for each to share our fears, agendas, ideas and obstacles to one another rather than all needing to be controlled. Then our diverse uniqueness of perspective and background are welcomed, we can be unified as a community that listens to and follows God's lead. (Marty F.) 
 

1. A Bridge for Dinner: Meals can be a multi-cultural bridge between us and others, narrowing the gap between our ethnic backgrounds and customs. Ask to be a guest in others' homes, taking on a guest-learners posture. This can bring understanding and true unity in life & YL. (Marty Folsom)

Hope these 10 mentorship takeaways fit in a nice doggie bag for your nugget-eating enjoyment.
-Jeff-

Sabb-baptism

Our longtime church from Everett First Baptist came to Post Falls, Idaho for their annual family camp, and we joined. Our two loves: the 'Inland NW' region and Everett. Dietrich had decided after his miraculous change of heart in mid June, that he wanted to be baptized, to express his new life and a fresh start with Jesus and his plans for us. This past Friday night was the time. Our church gathered around a beautiful, shallow lagoon in the Spokane River for baptisms. While sitting around the fire, a young child piped out 'I'm excited for people to be alphaBAPtized.'  Dietrich belly laughed at the kid's mis-use of the word baptism.
 

Dietrich asked his longtime children's ministry leaders/teachers, Alice and Lynne, to baptize him. Alice told his story well, sharing that Dietrich is a future world changing kid, a 'thinker' yet struggled to let go of his anger towards us parents from following God's call for us to move from Everett to Spokane.  Dietrich had finally made peace with God and with us, and baptism was a perfect expression of leaving his former life behind, and coming alive with God and accepting his 'new life' ahead. What a beautiful picture. (Click here to see it!)  His dunk was right up there with Air Jordan's leap from the free throw line and Dee Brown's no look, Reebok Pump slam.
 
As I continue my last 6 weeks of sabbatical, I am looking for ways to leave my former life behind, and receiving the new life he gives me.  Shedding old ways, attitudes, short-sighted leadership styles, little faith, and 'doubts' that lead to instability, as James 1:6 expresses.

Reading 'Leading Change,' studying James 1 and the book 'Habit' this week have been great friends in my own, renewing 'sabb-baptism.' 

I pray I can follow Dietrich as he follows Christ!

Willingly Being Stretched?

Do you like being 'stretched'?  Does anyone?

I just started reading the book of James. Each day I'm focusing on just one verse at a time to journal on and pray about. Verses 2-4 of chapter 1 feels like stretching my hard to stretch spiritual glutes and piriformis. "Consider it pure joy when you face trials of many kinds...". Say what? It may as well read: "Consider stretching your left ankle to tuck back behind your head, while smiling." How can we consider it pure joy in facing trials?  Trials are what we aim to avoid, right?  Except of course in the case of going on a helicopter tour of Kauai like Tanya and I just did Sunday, that's not a trial, right?

 

I have had a fair share of trials this year, mostly including a strained relationship due to my son's depression, sparked by moving away from Everett. After almost a year and a half of battling through trials, suffering and relational pain related to this, I clearly have been stretched. Taking this sabbatical, especially the past few weeks while in Kauai and Sisters Oregon, I am just beginning to open my heart to prepare to stretch more, like a silver medalist, Olympian, Ukrainian gymnast. 

My capacity to live through conflict and hurt have stretched beyond what I ever would have 'signed up' for. In it, my eyes have been opening to see the 'good' that God is working in me. I can handle more than before.  I can empathize much deeper with the pain that others' trials brings them. I appreciate family relationships even more. I am more willing than EVER to enter into my kids' space and interests and forsake my own. I understand God's unconditional love towards me by even attempting to stretch myself towards his downward dog-like posture.  All indications show that this family dibilitating storm, 'Hurricane Huber,' has passed.  Another may come, but in the post-storm recovery, how could God stretch my willing heart?

James 1:2 says "Don't resent (trials) as intruders, but welcome them as friends." (JB Phillips.)  

James 1:3 says "Realize that trials come to test your faith and produce in you the quality of endurance."

I don't know about you, but I LOVE the idea of me possessing the results of strong faith, endurance through all kinds of trials, and "mature character...with no weak spots." (James 1:3, JBP.) However, I don't love the idea of willingly putting myself in stretching positions that align with welcoming trials.  But I conclude that the outcomes are worth it.  It takes a willingness to be a 'stretcher', and not just when I 'have to,' but consistently.

The past week in Kauai, and in entering my 6th week of sabbatical, I'm hardly facing a trial. Yet I am reading, journaling, praying, and seeking out wisdom for stretching myself in leadership, parenting, and everyday life ahead.  I read "Leading Change" by John Kotter, taking voracious notes of how to lead change in spite of certain resistance, reading "Habit" to build inside me healthy habits, and re-reading Henri Nouwen's "Life of the Beloved" to further cement inside my soul WHO I am and WHOSE I am, so that when trials come, my identity is as solid as it can possibly be.  Here's a pic of the hidden beach, Pali Ke-Kua where I re-read it and entered into a long prayer-time I'd been avoiding for some reason.  It was pure joy.

So perhaps, welcoming trials as friends is an act of hospitality. It may simply start with willingly preparing our hearts and the table for our guests (trials) to come and fellowship, rather than investing in double latches on our doors to keep them out.  Let's keep stretching, pre-season, mid-season and post-season.  What does stretching look like for you?

Sisters, the Little Mister and a New Sister: Weeks 3 & 4.

We Have Already Wrapped up Sabbatical Weeks 3 & 4.  Three Highlights:

The Little Mister:
Dietrich, our little man, went on his own 'camp' from June 30th-July 9th.  He flew solo from SPO-SEA, picked up by Dad and Carolyn Huber. The next day, spent it with 'Frandma' (friend grandma) Susan (included church and brunch), a day with lifelong friend/staff person, Brittany, from Everett/Mill Creek YL, then best pals, the Schwenkes (and friends!), then 3 days with his friend since pre-K, Micah Bell, and wrapping up with grandma PJ (my mom) and Dave, before flying solo to meet us in Bend, OR.  He returned with a high smile on his face and excitement to reconnect with us. Honestly, we were in prayer that he would not pull away from us or revert back to depression after his 10 days away.  He is still FULLY 'Dietrich,' the creative, funny, sweet, little 'mister' we know and love...and THAT my friends is a gift!


A New 'Sister':
Janna and her Young Life leader, Claudia, brought three 7th grade friends to camp at Washington Family Ranch, Creekside.  Each of these 3 friends were among her very first friends when we moved here, and Claudia has gotten to know them from times she volunteers at Northwood Middle, at club, and during FroYo (Frozen Yogurt) hang outs throughout the year.  All of the girls .  Each of the girls received scholarships for camp that Young Life supporters have invested in helping change kids lives forever. This is the first time we were impacted by others' generosity for camp.  A few of the kids' parents would not otherwise have been able, or willing, to contribute towards them coming.

It was a joy to see the girls arrive to camp like tens of thousands we've seen before.  But THIS time, it was OUR daughter and her friends who were enthusiastically welcomed to camp, wow-ed by the meal, tractor-beamed in to the high energy club, and refreshed by the simple message of God's love for them.  This new perspective through Janna and her friend's eyes was like seeing the gospel unveiled to kids at camp for the first time.  It was like magic seeing Claudia take each girl for a one on one to ask what they are thinking and hear their stories even deeper.  And after meeting with one friend, she decided she was ready to open her heart up to starting a relationship with God.  I know angels in heaven rejoice when any person turns from living for themselves and turns to faith in Jesus, but this time, like never before, Tanya and I felt like two of those angels. Our eyes consistently were filled with tears, we fist pumped about once every 15 mins, began to swing our arms as we walked around camp, prayed a little louder, and dreamed of how eternity just got sweeter with a new sister.  After 19 years leading, and Tanya's 22 years, it is ALWAYS a joy to see up close, and even hear about, kids' lives turning to the Lord.  But this time, it simply tasted sweeter than ever.

Sisters:
Our family just returned from Sisters, Oregon with our pals the Ingrams for a super low-key vacation full of biking, jogs, hikes, tennis, swimming, kids playing, reading, journaling and relaxing.  I shifted to a low enough gear that my fast spinning brain allowed me to read an entire book in 4 days. This is highly unusual for me!  After finishing "David and Goliath" (a superb read) I gobbled up "The Insanity of God."  A few takeaways:
1. When asking 'why' God allows such suffering, starvation and pain in the world, in places like in Somalia; greed, corruption and sin (life with God pushed out of it) is not far from the answer. Its the absence of God we feel.
2. The real enemy in the World is not ISIS, communists, racists, or oppressively religious people.  The real enemy is LOSTNESS.  Lostness is the terrible enemy Jesus commissioned his disciples to vanquished, He came to seek and save the lost, and pursue lost sheep who don't even realize how lost they are, and to welcome back those sons and daughters who purposely left home with God.
3. The stronger the discomfort, persecution and suffering that believers face, often, the more significant the vitality of the faith you will see in them, and more likely, miracles & God sightings.
4. Believers from oppressed nations don't often understand who people like me make such an effort to journal and share so many 'God stories.'  They consider that the Bible shares them, and we should not be so surprised.
5. We can learn SO much from listening to people's stories of how they have survived and thrived coming out of difficult living situations, holding onto their faith. 
6. It is always possible to share Jesus with others. Even if it means being rejected, imprisoned or attacked. Rejection and persecution is completely avoidable however, just DON'T share Jesus. ;)
Good stuff.  So much to chew on and consider in how comfortable of faith we seek to live, yet how God rarely moves in that. God moves through faith. He is pleased by it. How can we exercise faith and love in new ways this year?

Excited now to go on our biggest family trip EVER this next week, to Kauai.  Sounds like I'll be at Shick Shadle, detoxing...but I will be leaving my iPhone and laptop to the side almost all week. Maybe a few 'sips' but otherwise, I'm going 'dry.'  Praying for my focus to be on Tanya, Janna, Dietrich, myself, and the Lord!  Thanks for listening. Keep pressing in your faith alongside us!  There is so much more, his love is higher, wider, longer and deeper than we can imagine.   -JH-

Week 1: What I Have Learned So Far!

In my first 12 days of sabbatical, I have already picked up some incredible wisdom, am catching my breath, reconnecting quite successfully with fam, and turning my heart towards connecting more deeply with Jesus. I wanted to share a top 5 of my nuggets so far.

5. The odds are ever in our favor
   Reading 'David and Goliath' by Malcolm Gladwell has opened my eyes to see how often I miss the real odds in situations I count myself 'out' from. Goliath is easily seen as the 'underdog' when looking closer in the Biblical account: an infantry vs a precise slinger, God's favor, and Goliath's slowness. My weaknesses actually create capacities to rely MORE on others (including God!) and uncover a necessity to take risks, which create favorable conditions for success and for mountains to be moved...just like Jesus suggested. "HIS grace is sufficient for me...I delight in weaknesses, for where I am weak, I am strong' 2 Cor. 12.


4. Loving unconditionally is the 'tortoise who wins the (relational) race'
  The 50 day period of time where Dietrich spoke only twice with me, ended. The contributing factors were prayer, unconditionally loving him [even when I felt like yelling, demanding, punishing or forcing...wanting hare-like quick results], love from extended family, and anti-depressants too. We are closer than EVER now, and do feel like the posture of loving and being close with him in the midst of his shutting out of me was a big contributing factor.

3. Be still and chill. 
I am learning that I have plenty of work to do on internalizing the invitation by God to me/us: "Be still and know that I am Lord." Psalm 46:10. For an 'relational, idea-happy, activator-leader' type, this invitation to be still, to not move, to not 'work first,' but wait on God, is going to be a worthy journey for me to embark on.

2. 'Not working' is really working
Many have told me that taking a break from my leadership duties is extremely healthy for others and for me. I see Kent McDonald, Lydia Flint, Garrett Gress (social media for the region while I'm gone, etc.), the solid regional board members engaging with areas and ADs using their gifts to further the mission & more. Bill Robinson (20 yr Whitworth president) expressed to me (and scribbled on my journal, see on the right) that it is good for me to reevaluate what my time is best spent doing, allowing others to explore their best too. Upon returning, each could have a more likely chance to serve in their sweet spots, instead of in where we are not strong, yet obligated.

1.  I can be relational and influential without being ingenuine
Using strengthfinders as a resource, two of my top three strengths are 'Woo' and 'Adaptability.' Woo is a gift to 'winning others over,' to be a bold asker and influencer towards a purpose.  Adaptability is a gift of being completely engaged, focused, agenda-less, and flexible towards what serves others best. The way this looks is that I simultaneously I have no agenda other than to focus on my relationship with others, yet God has gifted me to ask and invite, which can be considered an agenda. There is a 'voice/story in my head' that these two are are in conflict with one another. Marty, my mentor and counselor, helped me see the beauty of these two gifts. And that if I see 'agenda' instead as having a 'commitment,' it creates opportunities to have conversations with people to share what I am committed to and enter into a more intimate space to learn their commitments. It is not about influencing, but knowing how and if inviting/asking is fitting. Boom. Mind blown.


Thanks for listening.

We are off to Creekside as Adult Guest Hosts during Janna's camp week July 1-5, and then to Black Butte in Sisters, OR for some down time.  Blogging will commence in a few weeks, hopefully with some more tasty, crunchy nuggets from Chef Jesus.     

-Jeff-

Sabbatical? Does that mean you're just being lazy for 12 weeks?

Janna's 13th bday party at our house with 4 friends

Four of Janna's friends came over to celebrate her 13th bday today. That's right.  We have a teenager (on June 28th officially.)  One of the parents asked me about my sabbatical. "So you just get to be lazy for 12 weeks?" He inquired? GREAT question! That would be the assumption at face value. Not many have the kind of job or organization (like YL!) where a sabbatical is offered to veteran staff.

I wanted to share what I will be focusing on.  Two posts ago I shared my 3 goals: 

1) Deeply connect through adventure and time with family

2.) Rest and reflection

3.) Sharpen my leadership and soul

For family adventure, we will and have been making intentional time together.  It has been a JOY!  Yesterday I went fishing with the kids and our trusty captain, Larry Karr, my massage therapist friend, in Snohomish at Lake Bosworth before we headed back home to Spokane. Tonight we BBQ-ed and ate those rainbow trout the kids caught. It was all an adventure, it has officially begun!  Enjoy this video of our wild day: https://youtu.be/LptKFxb1rkA 

In 2 weeks we will be in Sisters Oregon together after Janna's 5 day camp at Creekside. We return and head out to Kauai for 8 days on July 17th. In mid August we were offered a free stay in San Clemente Cali. Those are our 'big plans' this summer as a family. The hunger for us to connect as a family have NEVER been greater.  My relationship with Dietrich, and his with our family as a whole, has COMPLETELY transformed from strained, adversarial, and non-functioning...to connected, joyful and functioning to its highest levels of connection. We are giving God the glory for the transformation.


For rest, reflection and sharpening, under the guidance of my life coach Randy Trettevik and some great mentors (Dr. Marty Folsom, Psychologist Tim Reisenauer, etc,) I will be working hard to keep my soul reflections consistent. As hard as I work on behalf of others, I am looking to be similarly intentional to receive from God, from mentors like longtome Whitworth president Bill Robinson, incredible CEO, Wayne Williams who 'gets' how to build healthy, functioning, intuitively arranged teams, genius supervision expert from Spokane, Doug Asbjornsen, and one of the most brilliant thinkers I know, Dave Phifer, a reknowned consultant and coach, and a former committee member of mine in North Snohomish County (my worst attempt at leadership when I was YL area director there...but oh so valuable experience) who miraculously still wants to be my friend!  I can't wait to be sharpened under the gritty fellowship of these folks.

Pray for our family to continue to blossom during this time. Tanya and I keep crying tears of joy and disbelief that we are united so well together as a family.  We are praying for you, friends, for those in need of breakthroughs, for our YL areas this summer, for kids to encounter Jesus (including Janna and her 3+ friends she will have with her at Creekside July 1-5) for our longtime friends, and family. How can we pray for YOU?  Comment away with prayer requests or comments for us!  Thanks.

Father and Son: Reunited

Father and Son: Reunited

The book with the most impact on my life was Henri Nouwen’s book, The Return of the Parodical Son. I had figured that I had graduated past the point of leaving the Fat6her in hopes of the distant lands, yet I still do it and keep needing to returned home and be taken in by the gracious re-welcoming and reinstatement. The invitation in the book powerfully stated that we are to become as the Father, humbling ourselves to welcome and extend grace to those who left us. That invitation has become my dance to the past year and it’s been painful and stretching. 

In the summer of 2015, we as a family prayer virtually every day for the opportunity and calling to move to Eastern Washington to be regional director. We prayerfully and courageously accepted, after being convinced that God was calling us. I started September 2015 and we moved January 31, 2016. February 1, Dietrich changed his mind and no longer wanted to accept this new calling, he wanted out. 

His life became one marked with deep sadness, obstinance, anger, and discouragement from family and school. He rejected counseling, advice, input, invitations, to believe and hope, became inconsolable. Summer brought relief, yet mid fall his pain returned with even deeper emotion. This remained and hit its deepest low before, during and after spring break. He became coldly rude, unwilling to obey, and returned to destructive patterns we’d seen in the spring. We began to use a safe hold, which brought hatred and more anger. Easter, he began to repeat phrases for thirty minutes straight,” When are we done with this trip?” He did this three times and I took him to the hospital. From then until early June, he did not speak to me, which included twenty-seven days in a row. Where he completely shut me out of his life. This was deeply frustrating, hurtful, infuriating inefficient, and somewhat fascinating and impressive how skilled he was at it. So many times, when I spent time with him, asked him questions, made requests, tried to engage with him, yet was met with complete rejection, ignored, and disrespected. I literally wanted to punish him, hurt him, grab his face and force him to respond to me, acknowledge me, and have a functional relationship with me. I wanted to demand him to love me again.

Then I considered how this has been a parallel to my relationship with God. How I shut Him out, ignored His voice, pretending He wasn’t there as I did as I felt. God asked other people to speak to me, as I did through Janna and Tanya. I realized that it was my turn to be the “father.” To ache in the heart, yet continue to wait for my son to “come home.” To initiate knocking on his door, love while he was still in sin, to forgive him,” …for he knows not what he does…” and offer unconditional love with no response. It seemed to be foolish, unsuccessful, enabling posture to choose to not force or discipline, or punish him for his hurtful, vindictive, manipulative, stance against me. So many intelligent people urged me to not just let him get away with this. I agreed that my passive response, yet lovingly initiating proximity, being “for” him and showing love, was potentially a losing formula. Yet, it’s the one God showed me and the worth.  

In the midst of our rejection, rebellion, and ignoring, He forgave He paid the price, He rose again, and initiated all the more, giving power and authority to others to share good news, truth, and love with folks like me who otherwise had shut it out with our lives. This was the model set before me and one that I had to pray and with the support of Jesus, close friends, mentors, and Tanya, to live out towards Dietrich. I felt unsuccessful. Days and weeks passed with continued unsuccessfulness and ongoing rejection. I wanted to abandon the approach; hit the eject button for this fight of futility, my gut and my mind compelled me to grab his head, yell, and demand he stops and just recognize me again and do what I say. Yet, Christ’s love compelled me to keep initiating him, loving, being close and waiting for him to return from the distant land, back to his father. 

Last week, the return began. Although there was no speech prepared, no major brokenness or apology, he returned to me. I asked him a question about the sunset and about what movie he’d like to see next. He answered. We talked. We laughed, I entered my Netflix account info in the iPad and we watched Mastermind. No fattened calf was barbecued, the elder daughter and I looked at each other with dramatic, widened eyes of disbelief, silently mouthing words of awe and delight. I just rolled with the rest of the evening and week. It’s been 10 days now and it feels like “home” again. I pray that we all recognize the need we each have to give and receive grace and that we love because Jesus first love us and that would be enough to love others without condition. 

Jeffrey R Huber

I'm getting Sabba-tickled June 18th to Sept 11th

Friends-

Next Saturday, June 18th, I begin a 12 week sabbatical with Young Life.  During this 3 months of rest, having space to grow in ways that I have wanted to but the concerns of the world have choked out. My priorities are:

1. Deeply connect through adventure and time with family.

· Vacay, time with friends and the kids friends, and a few road trips together. Some plans are still up in the air, based on how Dietrich is connecting amongst the family. Want to set ourselves up for success. :)

2. Rest and reflection:

·      Work through my ‘Living Forward’ Plan.  

·      Visit Black Butte & Hawaii with fam for rest, reflection, journal, study Psalms and NT.

·      Exercise 6 days a week, 72 times in wide varieties.

3. Sharpen my leadership and soul:

·       Reading 5 books on delegation, leadership, ‘fierce’ series, and spiritual formation.

·       Study under great ‘kingdom’ leaders: Wayne Williams, Bill Robinson, D.Asbjornsen and Dave Phifer

·       Meet with Marty Folsom, Randy Trettevik and Tim Reisenauer for counsel & helping me discover insight.

Updates to come!  Thanks for being on the journey.  I hope and pray that there will be tasty nuggets to share with you.  As I freely receive from the Lord, we will gladly share.  Maybe some laughable moments will come too. :)